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We were together for 2 years I use to cuss at her an yell all the time an call her bad names but we broke up and long before we broke up I quit treating her like that and wasn't the nicest person in the world to her but I quit treating her that way because I loved her. Now she does this to me all the time an use to back then too and she claims she got it from me, she yells at me all the time and I just dont yell back an she cusses and I still dont react.. =( she calls me moron an retard all the time and it use to not bother me because people say mean things when their mad but now its getin to be to much. I was raised around yelling so I can normally take her being this way but its like every day non stop. she broke up with me a month ago but weve been talken like were still together and I have been changing for her an treating her really nice, Im unfair about some things and I just can't help that at the moment but I have changed a lot of things trying to get her back and I think women would really appreciate it but all this time I am changing she isnt changing any of her ways. I guess since she broke up with me and now its like im chasing her and I guess now she thinks I have to do everything she wants and thats that. an honestly I have been because I wanted her sooo bad but now it's fading rapidly but I cant really take chasing her anymore and then geting her back an she treats me the same as before when I changed an am treating her a lot better like shes my princess =(she sounds like a little b1+ch..
Well all I can say is.. No Offense but what goes around comes around *-*.
She learns from the best [;Try not talking to her, just let her be, if she wants you back she will come chasing after you, then you won't have to take her yelling at you.It seems as though you guys are not a good match! I know you had been together a long time, but that doesn't mean you are right for each other. Some couples together are like poison, and others are almost perfect for each other. There should be no name calling, no cussing at each other, that is not love. It sound like jealousy, and possessiveness. Im sorry your having a hard time but I have been in a relationship just like that and the best thing for us was space, and a break up. There is someone out there for you that you wont need to change because you will be perfect to them and they will return you with the same respect and decency. Good luck with your search! Get away from this girl, your no good for each other ;)i think she ios just trying to get you back i remember with boyfiend before we started dating and this was like 3 years ago he cheated on me in a way well we werent dating but seeing eachother and when we were actually dating i atually cheated on him for it because i was so pissed at him..
Cut all contact from her,don't talk to her at all.She should get the message.well its good that u stopped that, but its not good that she's doing it now. ya, she can blame u for it.. sure, but she has to take responsibility for her own actions. So don't think its ur fault or anything like that. But if she's refusing to try to help calm her behaviour then she won't change. People only change if they want to.
& if she wants u back then ignore her and she will come running back to you. If she doesnt, then she prolly wont come back.. it's hard to do, but you'll find out what u need to move on with or without her.
*p.s. - relationships are hard and take work, communication is key.. so make sure u let her know how this is effecting you, explain how much it's bothering you. i think that maybe she getting back at you for all the time that you did it to her? well maybe shes feels that since you used to treat her bad, that she still remembers it and cant forget it....or maybe since now that you dont react, maybe shes testing you to see if you would yell back.Stop communicating or socialzing with her in any way. Ignore her when you see her and walk away.Find a new girlfriend. That's the short answer.U should tell her how that makes u feel, and that ur not cool with it
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...you must leave the past where it belongs...in the past. We teach people how to treat us....start by treating yourself with respect. how you treat you is the 1st example of how others should treat you. draw a line in the sand and say NO MORE, lets start fresh/today or we are done no matter how much it will hurt.If you are treating her with more respect than before, then it sounds like you've grown up and you can acknowledge that you weren't the nicest person in the past.
However, she may have "picked" it up from you but she can also pick up being nice from you too.
If I were you, I would have a conversion to make amends and apologize for past behavior and all that rudeness and meanness. I would discuss that it was messed up to treat her like that in the past and bring up how you've have changed since you care about her.
If you are still having a hard time getting back together with her, then it might be best to move on.
Good Luck hmmm..sit her down in an area where there is no distractions and talk to her kindly qiuetly and respectfully APOLOGIZE for the way you treated her tell her how you truly feel and tell her what she is doing is killing you on the inside and be like i can see how you felt and im srry for what i put you through but truly i think we have something here something relaly good that just needs some work adnsacrifice from the both of us i have been making changes to better this relationship and would like to see you chang rein the way you treat me as a person that is all i am aking just that ONE simple thing can you do that for me ?? is there something that i can do to swipe clena this vendetta that you seem to be carrying because i truly love you and feel that we have something and it kills me to see you slipping away from me but you see i am changing i am talking to you respectfully and treating you as an adult can you do the same for me?? talk to her and go about that method right there if she doesn't react in a homely way then leave her find another person and who knows life works in a funny way once she realizes what she lost(if you have good characteristics) she will be srry and might coming running back just as you DID i mean just from readuing your excerpt it seems you are a lot a like shes following what you did maybe she will turn for the better in the same foot prints as you did hope this helps and best of luck my friend #If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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